insomnia & the anti-dating moan

I'm seriously thinking about giving up dating in the new year, and this is just one example of why...sorry, but i didn't want to edit anything this guy wrote - long post...

golfdude (2:22:18 AM): hi
saga_30311 (2:22:23 AM): hey
golfdude (2:22:41 AM): u up pretty late...
saga_30311 (2:22:54 AM): so r u
golfdude (2:23:00 AM): yeah...nite owl
saga_30311 (2:23:46 AM): insomnia?
golfdude (2:24:07 AM): a lil...mostly just bored...
saga_30311(2:25:21 AM): i hear u
golfdude (2:25:23 AM): no pic of you?
saga_30311<(2:25:30 AM): pic of me?
golfdude (2:25:31 AM): so are you in atlanta?
saga_30311 (2:25:34 AM): yes
golfdude (2:25:50 AM): we haven't chatted much so I need to get "reacquainted"
saga_30311 (2:26:04 AM): ah - ok
saga_30311 (2:27:23 AM): (link to my picture)
golfdude (2:27:26 AM): my name is elisha
saga_30311 (2:27:34 AM): XXXXX - nice to meet u
golfdude (2:27:41 AM): u2...what is that link?
saga_30311 (2:28:03 AM): think it's the link to my pic on BV
golfdude (2:28:26 AM): cute pic...how tall are you?
saga_30311(2:28:41 AM): 5'8"
golfdude (2:28:45 AM): :x
golfdude (2:28:48 AM): kids?
saga_30311 (2:29:07 AM): 2, but only one lives with me
saga_30311(2:29:11 AM): the other one is grown
golfdude (2:29:14 AM): k
saga_30311 (2:29:18 AM): u?
golfdude (2:29:18 AM): how old are you?
golfdude (2:29:20 AM): none
saga_30311 (2:29:28 AM): 38
golfdude (2:29:41 AM): guess you won't be having anymore kids huh
saga_30311 (2:30:14 AM): hm...the jury's out on that one
golfdude (2:30:21 AM): so what part of atlanta are you in? i'm on the conley/ellenwood area
saga_30311 (2:30:34 AM): since i'm still single, that's doubtful
saga_30311 (2:30:45 AM): i actually live in atlanta, near spelman
golfdude (2:30:55 AM): k
golfdude (2:31:09 AM): i'm like 12 miles from downtown...
saga_30311 (2:31:48 AM): conley/ellenwood is where/
saga_30311 (2:31:49 AM): ?
golfdude (2:31:55 AM): south atlanta
saga_30311 (2:32:01 AM): think i got lost & ended up there once
golfdude (2:32:05 AM): lol
saga_30311 (2:32:17 AM): it's like east of jonesboro?
golfdude (2:32:42 AM): yep
saga_30311 (2:32:45 AM): ok
saga_30311 (2:33:07 AM): so, how old r u?
golfdude (2:33:11 AM): 36
saga_30311 (2:33:36 AM): and u're trying to settle down & have kids (given the "right" person)?
saga_30311 (2:33:42 AM): how tall r u?
golfdude (2:34:03 AM): 6'
golfdude (2:34:16 AM): and yes that would be nice...but only ONE kid...lol
saga_30311 (2:34:21 AM): lol
saga_30311 (2:34:28 AM): u want a boy?
golfdude (2:34:44 AM): naw just healthy
saga_30311 (2:34:46 AM): ok
saga_30311 (2:34:59 AM): so, what do u do?
golfdude (2:34:59 AM): r u from atlanta?
golfdude (2:35:05 AM): IT like yourself...
saga_30311 (2:35:08 AM): no, from ________?
golfdude (2:35:40 AM): Helpdesk, DB & Web Administrator
saga_30311 (2:35:54 AM): lol - 'scuse the questionmark - I'm from ________
saga_30311 (2:35:55 AM): ok
OK, benign so far, right? Here's where the conversation takes some sordid turn:
saga_30311 (2:36:04 AM): where do u work?
golfdude (2:36:11 AM): buckhead
saga_30311 (2:36:32 AM): er, what company?
golfdude (2:36:44 AM): y
golfdude (2:37:00 AM): you won't know who it is if i told you and that really isnt' important
Ok, I gotta admit - this made me a lil salty. In my mind, I was really like CTFU dude, it's not that serious. But, I was willing to give the brother a lil more rope...
golfdude (2:39:18 AM): u there?
saga_30311 (2:39:26 AM): yes
golfdude (2:39:39 AM): cat got your tongue...
saga_30311 (2:39:44 AM): no
golfdude (2:40:59 AM): oh...u didn't say anything after my last answer...don't get offended, I just dont think that's "appropriate"...seems like sisters here worry and ask questions that don't have anything to do with gettign to know someone, mroe like trying to size up someone's financial earning potential...
...and right here he hung himself. So, by now I've not only lost the little interest I had, but I've been generalized...nice...
saga_30311 (2:41:53 AM): honestly, I was just making conversation, since i make good money myself - kinda like u asking where i'm from, which has little bearing since i live in atlanta now
golfdude (2:42:00 AM): no
golfdude (2:43:14 AM): askign where you are from is totally different than asking someone what company they work for...if you asked any man that he would say the same...but then again, everyone here is "caught up" on status
saga_30311 (2:43:51 AM): hm...hate being generalized....
saga_30311 (2:44:16 AM): and I would think, that since we're both in IT, that u could see I'm trying to establish common ground
saga_30311 (2:44:23 AM): obviously that's a prob
golfdude (2:44:31 AM): sry about that , but when so many sisters do the same thing it "ruins" it for those who may sincerely want to know something...
golfdude (2:44:36 AM): OK...that's true
saga_30311 (2:44:48 AM): don't worry about it though
golfdude (2:44:51 AM): but my company has NO bearing on a compatibility
Who said a f&*%ing thing about compatibility? Jeez - u chat with a dude, and he's assessing compatibility, based on an IM session? That's not at all like a sister determing earning capacity based on where a guy works, right? Anywayz
golfdude (2:45:01 AM): situation
golfdude (2:45:47 AM): talk about what YOU do...I didn't hear you say anything about what YOU do..just you work in IT :-?
saga_30311 (2:45:57 AM): u never asked
golfdude (2:46:26 AM): dont' have to...if I told you the YOU should have automatically reciprocated if you are trying to establish some sort of "compatibility"
...and now I'm found 'wanting'. I would've gone off, but it would've been a waste of energy...
saga_30311 (2:47:29 AM): for the record, i'm a java developer, but I've also done graphic design & web development work
golfdude (2:47:48 AM): well XXXXX (note he managed to spell it wrong), i'm about to head out...i'm about to fall asleep at the keyboard....lol
golfdude (2:47:54 AM): cool...
saga_30311 (2:47:54 AM): u seem a lil, er - sensitive about the whole work issue
golfdude (2:47:58 AM): no
golfdude (2:48:02 AM): i'm not like that at all
golfdude (2:48:10 AM): but i do have my limits...
saga_30311 (2:48:13 AM): like u've dated one too many gold digger
golfdude (2:48:50 AM): no, i dont' date gold diggers
golfdude (2:49:04 AM): i just dont get into that line of questioning
saga_30311 (2:49:17 AM): er, yeah....riiiiiggghht
Note:: my sarcasm here eludes him...
golfdude (2:49:27 AM): of the where you work, how much you make, what do you drive, do you own your own home
saga_30311 (2:50:00 AM): ok, isn't that presumptuous?
golfdude (2:50:02 AM): to me initially its none of someone's business
....kinda like how many kids u have, where u live, and where you're from, right?
golfdude (2:50:08 AM): no...
golfdude (2:50:33 AM): cause fi you get that initial answer, you'll ask the others...
saga_30311 (2:50:54 AM): again, that's a false assumption
golfdude (2:50:54 AM): maybe not YOU, but it happens...just see it like this...I just dont' like discussing that stuff
...kthxbi...
saga_30311 (2:50:59 AM): ok
saga_30311 (2:51:02 AM): g'nite

Exception? Unfortunately no...unmarried dudes over 30 with this kinda paranoia aren't all that rare. I was just too damn tired to check him (but not too tired to blog about it...lol). Methinks it's time for some time off...